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Coming Out: "I *still* Love You" and What Not To Say

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Picture Description: the band Suit Up, Soldier May 2021. Stingray [left], Spartacus [right], me [center] Welcome back! It's been a year since I publicly came out of that dang closet, so as a tribute to my out-iversary, I wanted to provide some insight on what to say (and what NOT to say) when someone comes out to you. I want to really dive deep into the cringeworthy stuff, but it should be noted that when I came out, I received 99% positive comments and an overwhelming amount of love.  It is absolutely heartwarming to re-read all of the comments on my social media from last year's posts and the overall response just gives me so much hope. Alright, there's a phrase that gets thrown around a lot after someone comes out and although it is meant to be positive, it is subtly negative, and we need to talk about it.   "I still love you." Ok, wait, so do you mean that there was potential for me to lose your love by coming out? Do you mean you don't like that I'm ...

Chapter One

Welcome. You're here because you have questions. I don't pretend to have all the answers, but I will share my journey as best as I can.  I will be as open, honest, frank, and candid as non-explicit online content will permit.  Some of the juiciest details are just meant for a personal conversation. So let's talk! I always encourage a good conversation because I believe one of the healthiest things we can do for ourselves and humanity is get to know someone and why they think the way they do--to listen and to learn.  That being said, take a seat and we'll dive into my experience growing up as a christian gay man in a straight world. It all started when I took my first breath of sterile hospital air as I screamed from the sting of existence... Just kidding! Let's start with current events.  I recently came out publicly as gay on social media.  Everything leading up to that has been hectic to say the least, not to mention the whirlwind that occurred after.  Am...